Thursday, November 7, 2013

Positively Positive

Usually I'm a half glass full type of person, but when it comes to people, I'm a glass half glass empty because some a-hole drank my water. I think it has something to do with being raised in Miami, and the self-centered mindset of everyone down there. Living in the South and Midwest has really opened my eyes. People can be nice!

For as long as I can remember, I've been judging people. It started in school with the nerds and the losers, and it just continued on into adult life. Now, I am by no means a bully or anything. All of these mean guy thoughts stay in my head, but to me that's bad enough.

At the mall I judge the mom sitting at the playground on her phone ignoring her kid. I've been there though. When Hubs was deployed, I was that mom. The mall was my only moment of freedom from the kids. At the grocery store when the person in front of me doesn't have any produce, I judge. I've also been there. It was cheaper for me to buy almost everything at the commissary but get my vegetables from Walmart.

Lately, I've noticed myself being more and more judgmental. I figure it has to do with the stress of moving, but I'd like to start on a more positive path before getting to Hawaii. It's my intention to start new in Hawaii with organization, routine, and fitness. This is just another step in the right direction.

Are you a jerk like me, or do you view strangers in a positive light before getting to know them?

Love, Alex

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  1. I'm kind of bad about being judgy when I'm out and about by myself (just in my head) but if I'm with others (or on Twitter) I can easily see the other side of it and usually point it out. Like, if people complain about someone taking the elevator only one flight, I remind them that plenty of people have disabilities that you can't see that can prevent them from walking up just one flight. I need to start pointing out the other side to myself too.

  2. Before having three kids I was a hardcore judger! But then I was quickly humbled by my kids that could drive a crazy person sane. I mean I absolutely judge from time to time…who doesn't, but I try and spin it into the positive real quick before that karma comes to bite me in my post preggo saggy butt! haha

  3. I definitely view life through rose-colored glasses and give everybody the benefit of the doubt. By all means, I'm not naïve, I think it has a direct correlation with being raised (in the most part) in Texas. I rarely felt attacked, judged or unwanted by my peers. I was always motivated, etc. - and ultimately gave me the strength to move out of Texas to NYC! Looking back, it was really an ideal situation for me growing up. I just hope when my husband and I have children they would experience life in Texas (particularly Austin) too!

  4. I've never really been someone to judge, although I am in no way perfect. I don't know why, and it's always really bothered me when I hear people make comments about others when they don't even know them. My husband is a judger and I'm constantly putting him in check.

  5. I was a hardcore judgey mcjudge before I had kiddos. Now I am so empathetic to that mom whose child is having a meltdown at the store. I still judge people's outfit choices which is terrible because my whole wardrobe consists of yoga pants and old navy jeans. In my defense who wears jeans to work out at the gym? How can I not judge that?

  6. I try not to judge, but sometimes it happens. Mainly if I see someone go to the store in pajamas. I think, "Is it so hard to put on pants?"

  7. I try hard not to judge people because I've been judged and I know you can't really understand what someone else is going through. I'm not innocent of course, but I try to think of their side of the story!

  8. I try not to judge, but sometimes when we people watch, I can't help it. People here are so different though, it's hard to judge them. The locals are just so apologetically themselves that you can't really say anything bad.

  9. It honestly depends on the person and the situation...some people just give off a funky vibe at first.

  10. Oh hell no .. I'm mean. At least I can be mean in my head. It's inevitable that we all judge someone somewhere. But like you it's all about perspective. I am learning a lot about myself and what I want my life to be like with this fresh start in Arizona. I think you will find that too when you get to Hawaii! :)

    (¸¤ Lanaya | xoxo


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