Sunday, December 29, 2013

Distance and Death

It was a quiet weekend for us over here. Really not much going on at all and a lot of time spent at home. Yesterday we ran a couple errands around town. We bought this shag rug for the living room that I'm in love with. I just want to lay on it and make carpet angels. 

Saturday was completely a stay at home day. We did consider going to the beach, but some how, we heard about the jelly fish here. Apparently, they like to hang around eight to ten days after a full moon. After reading up on "box jelly fish" I decided I'd rather stay home than risk my life at the beach. Their poison is enough to send you into cardiac arrest, leading to death by drowning. No fun. 

On Friday night, one of Hubster's grand aunts passed away in Miami. Although she was in her 90, it was sad because she was always such a sweet lady. I felt worse for Hubster, because he was extremely close with her. Practically his own grandmother. I can't imagine what it's like, because I don't even know the names of my grandparents' siblings.

The death made me realize that we are far. And there's nothing we can do about it. Aside from the text letting him know that she passed away, there haven't been any updates. The time difference also makes it a tad difficult to catch people when they aren't working or sleeping. 

Before coming to Hawaii, I knew that family would die back home and there would be absolutely nothing we'd be able to do about it. Now that it's happened, the reality sucks. We still have at least three years to go, and plenty of aging family members. It's going to be difficult trying to choose who we can go home for. 

For now, I have to let it go and just deal with life here. We will finally have cable and internet tomorrow. I'm hoping that we can figure out where our household goods are, and maybe be surprised by getting them this week. 

I hope that this week turns out wonderfully for everyone and that you're all able to start 2014 off on a positive note. I'm trying my best to ditch this cloud above my head and enjoy the end of this year and beginning of next. 


  1. Oh I'm so sorry to hear about your husband's aunt--I will be definitely be keeping you all in my thoughts. Hopefully your household goods will get straightened out so you can start the new year off right!

  2. I'm sorry about your loss. My husband's one grandfather passed while Mac was in Afghanistan the first time. That was unfortunate. All we could do was send flowers (my job didn't give bereavement time for spouses' families).

  3. I'm sorry. I had 2 grandparents die while we were in Okinawa. One I had tried to mentally prepare myself for (it didn't work), but the other one was a complete surprise. I didn't go home for either. That's when it really hits home how hard this life can be.

  4. I am so sorry for your loss. And I know exactly what you mean. That was something we thought a lot about before choosing to come to Alaska. My husbands whole family lives on the east coast, so with the time difference and the distance it makes communicating, and keeping up to date difficult.

  5. I'm sorry to hear about your family's loss.

  6. It's hard to be faraway when family passes away. I hope the time together as a family is enough to comfort.


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