Wednesday, June 27, 2012

Guilty Feeling

I always feel a bit guilty when I do or buy something nice for myself while Hubster is gone. If feel as  if though I shouldn't be having a good time spending the money that he earned while he is trapped in the miserable desert.

Over the weekend some of the wives from the company and I took a road trip to Hobby Lobby. We all spent a pretty good amount of money. Not a ton, but obviously more that we could have added to our savings. Along with the shopping trip, we had a nice non-homecooked meal. Even if Olive Garden isn't gourmet, it sure beats an MRE or dehydrated stuff from the DFAC.

I felt extra guilty about today. After our spectacular CrossFit workout, Jacquie and I went to the spa on post and got massages and facials. It wasn't overly expensive or anything, but the whole time we were there I kept thinking how Hubster would probably kill for a massage. Or a pedicure on those nasty boot feet. After dealing with the munchkins on my own for the past 6 months we'd probably both agree that a massage was well deserved though.

In the end, I decided that the best way to get over my guilt would obviously be to treat Hubs to a couples massage over R&R.

I know I can't be the only one who has these feelings. Do you feel guilty when you spend money or visit certain places while your spouse is away?


  1. When my husband was deployed I'd feel guilty any time I did anything fun or spent money. BUT now that I can look back on it, we did save A LOT of money even though I did splurge here and there.

    You have to treat yourself every now and then. You have to keep yourself sane and connect with other wives. This last deployment my husband was on I did a girls night once a month. I kept it simple, just dinner and a movie and gave myself a budget, withdrawing cash so I wouldn't spend more than I intended.

    I've been pretty lucky too, my husband has always been super supportive and always encouraged me to spend time with family and friends while he is away. I think if he knows I'm busy with family and friends he worries less about my well-being and sanity. :)

    Ok, I'm going to stop typing now. Haha.


  2. I feel the same way! But I know that the hubby wants us to still enjoy life here. He is very supportive of that but I can't help but be feel bad when we are "happy" here! But we all know we can't put life on hold here while they are deployed (as much as we want too) And I agree with Ashley, the husband worries less when he knows that my daughter and I are out doing things rather than having a nervous breakdown at home :) I think it is completely normal to feel guilty though!


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